Changes can be stressful, but they are particularly stressful when they alter the trajectory of your life. Getting married, buying a house, starting a family, moving to a new city – these are just some of the major life changes you may face in the future. You may not be able to eliminate stress entirely, but you can find ways to handle the pressure. Here are some stress coping tips for big life transitions.
Prepare in Advance
The more prepared you are, the less stressed you will feel. Think about the transition from every angle, and prepare for whatever circumstances may come. If you’re moving to a new area, find out what you’ll need to do to hook up your internet, water, electricity, etc. Ask about deposits so you can set money aside. If you are getting a new job, ask about the dress code, parking options, training time, and pay schedule. Make lists of questions when you come up with them, and record the answers accordingly. You can chisel away at your stress by being well-prepared for the change.
Think of Other Transitions You’ve Already Been through
Chances are you have already overcome a similarly stressful event. Even if it does not seem like a big transition now, it did back then. For instance, many young adults experience overwhelming stress moving out for the first time. You may look back and think that was an easy transition. You will eventually feel the same about the change you’re going through now. What seems overwhelming now will just be a memory in the future. Have confidence that you will get through this, just like you did previous transitions.
Focus on the Positives to Come
As intimidating as change can be, it is usually accompanied by rewarding opportunities. A new job provides more financial stability. A new house allows you to build equity. A child creates a new source of joy in your life. Take a break from the stress and think of the great experiences coming up.
Go Easy on Yourself
Being nervous or scared is not a sign of weakness. It is understandable to feel overwhelmed at this stage of your life. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself. If you make a mistake, you will find a way to fix it. The transition will probably be smoother than you think.
Talk to Someone about the Stress
Sometimes all you need to do is vent for a moment about the stress you feel. This could be your significant other, a close friend or family member, or a trusted therapist. Speak openly about your thought processes, even if they seem like a jumbled mess right now. As you get those thoughts out of your head, you will find clarity. Then you can focus on what needs to be done, rather than the weight of the transition.
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