Your inner critic is the voice in your head telling you what you’ve done wrong. Sometimes it can help you avoid bad decisions, but in most cases, it just destroys your self-esteem. The good news is that you have complete control over your inner critic. We’re here to help you take the power back. Check out this guide to learn how to silence your inner critic.
Your Inner Critic Is Not You
When you hear that mean, degrading voice in your head, that’s not you talking. Your inner critic is a combination of past expectations and other people who were critical of you. Perhaps you had an older sibling your parents compared you to. Maybe you had an abusive relationship where you were belittled and controlled. These elements of your past make up your inner critic. You have the power to bring closure to them.
No matter how loud your inner critic may be, try to reach down to the real voice within you. If you are working with a therapist, you can learn how to bring closure to past experiences so your voice becomes the loudest one in your head. Your therapist can also help you change negative thought patterns that contribute to depression and anxiety. The entire process is personalized for your needs.
Give Your Critic a Name
The goal is to completely detach from your inner critic. An easy way to do that is to give your critic a name. It can be whatever name you want – Joe, Phyllis, Critiqua, Hamilton, Blueberry, etc. When you’re in a cycle of self-doubt, tell your critic to go away. “I don’t have time for you right now Phyllis. You need to leave.” This simple strategy will help you disassociate from your inner critic so you can invite more positivity into your life.
Sympathize Instead of Criticize
Choose sympathy over criticism. Instead of saying, “The house is a complete disaster,” say, “I’ve clearly been stressed and overstretched for time.” The mess remains the same, but your perspective on it changes completely.
Show yourself some compassion, just like you would for someone else. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Taking a break is not a sign of weakness. It’s a chance to build much-needed strength for the future.
Celebrate Your Accomplishments
Celebrate all of your victories, even the ones that seem minor. Made your bed for the first time in a month? That’s awesome! Woke up without hitting the snooze button? Great job! Took time off work for a mental health day? Congratulations, you deserve it! When you highlight your accomplishments, you’re less likely to look for failures.
If you would like more assistance silencing your inner critic, one of our licensed therapists would be happy to assist you. Contact Urban Balance at (888) 726-7170 for a confidential therapy appointment.