Knowing When to Seek Marriage Counseling

When is the right time to get marriage counseling, and is it right for us? This is something you may ask while looking for solutions in your relationship. Let’s take a closer look at how marriage counseling works so you can decide if it’s a good fit for you.

The Goals of Marriage Counseling

The goals of marriage counseling vary from one couple to the next. You will have a set of goals in mind pertaining to the dynamic of your relationship. Common goals include:

  • Rebuilding trust after a traumatic event (i.e. infidelity)
  • Creating a positive and effective flow of communication
  • Balancing stress and responsibilities in the marriage
  • Resolving past and recurring conflicts
  • De-escalating disputes before they turn into arguments
  • Getting through major life transitions, such as job transfers or having children

At Urban Balance, we provide personalized marriage counseling that is tailored to each couple. Whatever your goals may be, your marriage counselor will help you find ways to achieve them. We aim to help you find the root cause of marital struggles so you can conquer them together, as a couple.

Using Marriage Counseling to Resolve Current Issues

With regards to timing, you may seek marriage counseling when you have a recurring disagreement in your marriage. Perhaps you feel like you have the same discussion over and over again, with no official end to the dilemma. A marriage counselor can help you find closure to that. You may also seek marriage counseling to address an issue from the past, such as the loss of a loved one, a period of separation, or an act of infidelity. Most couples pursue marriage counseling because of a struggle in their relationship, but that is not always the case.

Using Marriage Counseling to Prevent Future Issues

Marriage counseling doesn’t have to be reactive. It can also be proactive. If you are planning to get married soon, you could pursue pre-marital counseling to set you up for success. You could also use marriage counseling to develop communication strategies for future discussions. Many of the couples we work with stay in marriage counseling after resolving their initial concern because they find comfort in the skills they develop.

There Is No Downside to Marriage Counseling

The fact that you’re reading this shows that you’re at least considering marriage counseling for your relationship. No matter what the circumstances are surrounding that consideration, there is no harm in talking to a counselor. You can discuss your struggles, concerns and goals in a confidential setting and get non-judgmental advice that is personalized for your family. If you want to pursue individual counseling in addition to couples counseling, we will gladly arrange that for you. Contact Urban Balance at (888) 726-7170 to schedule an appointment with a marriage counselor or individual counselor near you.

On July 30th, our current electronic health system will transition to a new and advanced system to better serve you: Athena. Prior to the transition date, you will be sent a registration link to create a new patient account in Athena. If you have any immediate questions or concerns, please do not hesitate to contact your therapist, or call our office to speak to a staff member.