By UB staff therapist Kiya Immergluck, Ph.D., LCPC

There are two basic types of people in the world: those who choose to be happy, and those who choose to be unhappy. Contrary to popular belief, happiness doesn’t come from fame, fortune, other people, or material possessions. Rather, it comes from within. The richest person in the world could be miserable while a homeless person could be smiling and content with their life.

Happy people are happy because they make themselves happy. They maintain a positive outlook on life and remain at peace with themselves.

The question is: how do they do that? It’s quite simple. Happy people have good habits that enhance their lives. They do things differently. Here are 10 things that happy people do.  They:

  1. Don’t hold grudges. Happy people understand that it’s better to forgive and forget than to let their negative feelings crowd out their positive feelings.
  2. Treat everyone with kindness. It has been scientifically proven that being kind makes you happier. Every time you perform a selfless act, your brain produces serotonin, a hormone that eases tension and lifts your spirits.
  3. See problems as challenges. The word “problem” is never part of a happy person’s vocabulary. A problem is viewed as an obstacle. Whenever you face an obstacle, try looking at it as a challenge.
  4. Express gratitude for what they already have. You will have a deeper sense of contentment if you count your blessings instead of yearning for what you don’t have.
  5. Dream big. People who get into the habit of dreaming big are more likely to accomplish their goals than those who don’t.
  6. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Happy people understand that life’s too short to get worked up over trivial situations. Letting things roll off your back will definitely put you at ease.
  7. Speak well of others. Being nice feels better than being mean. Saying nice things about other people encourages you to think positive, non-judgmental thoughts.
  8. Never Make Excuses. Happy people don’t make excuses or blame others for their own failures in life.
  9. Get absorbed in the present. Happy people don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. They savor the present.
  10. Choose friends wisely. Misery loves company. That’s why it’s important to surround yourself with optimistic people who will encourage you to achieve your goals. The more positive energy you have around you, the better you will feel about yourself.

The main message is choice! Good, bad, & neutral things happen. You can choose how you react to them. Whenever you can, choose to be happy!

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